Monthly Archives: December 2008

I Hope You Had a Lovely Christmas!

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I hope you had a lovely Christmas or whatever holiday you celebrate this time of year. I love to observe and experience the traditions and customs of other religions and cultures. I’m so thankful we live in such a rich, diversified world!

On the Virtual Assistance Chamber of Commerce forum, we were sharing some of the special goodies members received (or gave!) this year, and how we all spent our holidays. In my family, we grew up giving and getting lots of gifts. Even still, my dad makes me and my sister give him our Christmas gift lists.

But I really tire of it. It’s become more of chore to me anymore and I find it all really commercial and consumptive and wasteful, especially when you don’t need for anything (and can buy exactly what you want yourself when you do) or you get things that will only sit in a closet or be given away.

Rob and I live a very intentionally simple, not-so-consumeristic lifestyle. I always try to buy gifts I know loved ones really want or will use. I absolutely hate buying people things without putting any thought or effort into it just to get them something. What’s the point of that? There’s no soul in it and when that’s the case, we aren’t doing something nice for someone; we’re just doing it for ourselves.

 I love the idea of gifts that are super meaningful and unmaterialisitic, not necessarily purchased–one of the reasons I really loved Christine’s article last issue of The Portable Business. I hate to say it, because I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the U.S. and am actually very homesick, but being in Germany really shows the contrast in how wasteful and consumptive we are in the States as a society.

Rob’s family doesn’t really do gifts and instead focuses more on family and friends and getting together. Of course, every year, they always give us some little thing or other after making a big deal out of reminding everyone NO GIFTS, LOL.

We spent Christmas eve and Christmas day with his folks. Christmas eve it was just me and Rob and his parents. We always have a toast of champagne before eating. For dinner, his mom made wienersnitzel (she knows how much I LOVE that!) with mashed potatoes and veges and pumpkin bread. Then we sat around the table until 11pm just gabbing and drinking good German beer.

On Christmas day, we went back to his parents. They had their good friends, Ute and Rolf, over as well. His parents live on the edge of the Kaefertaelerwald (wald = forest) where you can walk through miles of woodland trails or see the several kinds of deer, bison, goats and wild boar they keep in a park. That afternoon before dinner, we all walked over to the park with a bag of chopped up veges, apples and bread to feed the animals. The little boar piglets were so stinkin’ cute!  

 

That night we had turkey, mashed potatoes, mashed sweet potatoes, cranberries, green beans, corn and stuffing with wine and champagne. Dessert was pumpkin bread and pumpkin pie. Rob’s mom is such an amazing cook! That woman deserves sainthood, I tell you!

Today, we have been doing nothing but laying around and eating the leftovers his mom sent home with us and the Roche’s chocolates Ute gave me. It’s so funny–we’re like the wild boars fighting over the grub, LOL. Neither of us wants the other to get any more than the first, but Rob keeps stealing bites off my plate anyway. My strategy is to eat everything on my plate and THEN steal bites off his-he can’t counterattack because there’s nothing left to steal, LOL!

I’m actually a little under the weather with a sore throat trying not to get sick. They say to feed a cold, right? Who am I to argue? LOL

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Ambling Around Wine Country

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Yesterday, we went with Rob’s parents to this lovely little town in wine country called St. Martins on the Pfaelzer Weinstrasse (weinstrasse = wine street) up in the Pfalz which borders the Pfaelzerwald (wald = forest).

Our first objective of the day was to hike up the Kalmit which is about three miles/2000 feet up and overlooking the town. Here are some of our shots…

Sign post:

A little fountain on the way up:

The misty forest:

Looking down at our progress:

This is the Kalmit Huette (huette = hut) at the top. As with most of these mountain hikes, there’s usually a volunteer-run lodge at the top where you can take a break, warm up, and get a hot meal and something to drink (including beer, which Rob and his dad did partake of!).

We had split pea soup with bratwurst:

Shots of the valley and wine town we walked up from:

Man, I tell you, those “old” people kicked my ass. I say that jokingly because there’s nothing old about Rob’s parents. His dad will be 70 in January and his mom is three years younger and they bike and hike and play volleyball (his mom is on a team) and do all kinds of other activities. You notice that a lot over here. Seniors are very active and, hence, you see many who look really great and are very fit for their age. Not too many couch potatoes over here.

After gettin’ our grub on and looking around a bit, we headed back down to walk around the town a little more and then go to dinner at one of the wonderful restaurants. Here are some of the picturesque sights I got to take in…

The vinyards:

A castle in the distance:

We had the most delicious dinner at this cozy little place called Altes Schloesschen. Then we sat around and had some wine, talking until late in the evening. Around 10:30 it was finally time to head home for beddie-bye!

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I Do Love Heidelberg

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Rob’s been taking Fridays and Mondays off from work so he can take me around to see some of the sights. We’ve been spending quite a bit of time in Heidelberg which I’ve decided I really love. I’ve been there four or five times now so far. Here are a few of my favorite shots so far…

A church:

I fell in love with this darling little villa:

An example of some of the common building architecture:

Across the Neccar River:

The Alte Bruecke (the Ol Bridge) over the Neccar River:

These towers are a world-famous attraction called the Bruecken Tor (Bridge Gate) which guard the entrance of the bridge over the Neccar:

Flood marks on a nearby building along the Neccar:

This is the Stadthalle (City Hall) building:

City streets:

During our last excursion there together, we happened upon this delightful used and rare book store. Rob wasn’t able to get an old, old German historical set out of his head so we decided we’d go up on Friday to spend the day in Heidelberg again with the intention of doing a little wheeling and dealing with the bookseller and then visiting the majestic Heidelberger Schloss (schloss = castle/palace).

First stop of the day was back to our favorite restaurant, Binsebub’s:

There’s a little story behind the name and if you can read German, this is it, LOL:

A photo on the wall of the owner’s cute little dog (who is now deceased, God rest his cute lil soul), “having a drink” at the bar :

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The food at Binsebub’s is so deliciously authentic and off the beaten path, which is exactly why we love it so much (we don’t like the tourist spots; getting the real flavor of the country and culture is the only way to travel). The proprietor is this sturdy, efficient German woman who comes off a bit gruff at first, but then will bestow upon you her big, warm smile and you see she has a heart of gold. Like last time, we had the pork roast with a delectible gravy and home fries (sliced potatoes) and this time had red cabbage as our vege. Of course, we also had to have a couple of the finest Pils bier (bier = beer) to go with!

BEFORE:

 

AFTER

(Let me tell ya, if we hadn’t been in public, we would have licked our plates clean.)

We also decided to eat a little dessert and settled on some apple pie. They put slivered almonds over the top and serve it with real whip cream and vanilla ice cream. By the way, they do ice cream over here like Italy. If you’ve ever had gelato, you will never look at ice cream in the States ever again.

Okay, enough about food. Afterward, we spent a couple hours in the bookstore. Rob got a good deal on the historical set. We walked around the Christmas market and did some window shopping. Here are some pix of the main shopping district street which leads up to the Christmas market and then up to Heidleberger Schloss:

It was getting to be eveningtime so we decided we’d better get to the castle if we were going to get any good photos. First, since our pix don’t do it justice, here are a couple photos of the castle, courtesy of Wikipedia:

Here are some of our pix that came out the best:

 

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Lost in the Sex District and Other Misadventures

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On Sunday, we got up extra early and headed to Rob’s parents’ house for a nice breakfast before driving to this particular Christmas market up in the Pfaelzerwald Forest.

Here’s the moon over Mannheim that morning; it was a clear, beautiful day:

Morning moom over Mannheim.

Daybreak on the Neccar River:

Daybreak on the Neccar River.

Driving through the woods up to the market:

Driving through the forest up to the market.

The market in the woods is an annual tradition in Rob’s family. It was so fun. Had pumpkin soup and gluhwein to warm up (it was CO-OLD!). The soup was delicious and I’m sure very healthy. Gluhwein is mulled wine (you drink it hot). We drink it all the time at home. It’s very watered down so you don’t get buzzed; it’s just gives you a nice rosy glow, LOL. You can go to just about any German deli or store and buy a bottle. Try it–it’s yummy. 

Pumpkin soup:

Pumpkin Soup

Some pix of the market:

 

A couple cute little miniature ponies:

Wild trout being smoked (we bought some–delish!):

This cute little “yoda” dog who was keyed in on the wieners his owner was eating the whole time:

After we walked around there and bought a few things, we drove to this little village in the Elmsteiner Tal (tal = valley) where the Spangenberg castle is located high up on cliff on an outcropping of rock that you can hike up to:

Creek crossing:

View from the trail:

Shots of the castle on the way up:

Inside the castle walls:

(Notice the stocks, LOL):

Summary of the castle history. Notice that it dates back to the 1100s:

Burg Erfenstein (burg = castle) which is another castle on the mountaintop opposite from Spangenberg:

The cool thing about these castles (they’re everywhere in Europe) is that most of the time, once you get up to them, they’ll have a lodge/restaurant in them so you can get a drink and a nice hot meal. So we hiked up, took in all the amazing feats of engineering of old and then cozied up inside the restaurant for some liver dumpling things and a couple beers (my first time eating any kind of liver in my life, and yes, I still do not care for it, thank you very much). 

The volunteer-run lodge/restaurant inside the castle walls:

Notice the real suit of armor on the right:

The Burg Spangenburg coat of arms:

Looking down on the valley below:

After hiking back down, we went drving around the countryside a bit. The little villages go back thousands of years and I just adore how cute and quaint they are. When it got dark, we headed back to Rob’s parents’ house and had sauerbraten and dumplings that his mom made. We always joke about how much it must suck to be Rob’s dad and have to eat all that “terrible” food his mom makes every day.

Really fun day. We slept like babies that night.

Yesterday, I went to Heidelberg by myself on the train to go shopping. It was a lovely day. But coming back, this sweet little old lady lost her balance as she went to get off at her stop, and fell and hit her head on the step. It was so horrible and gut-wrenching! Like a movie in slow-motion, it all happening before your eyes in a split second, but nothing you can do.

She lay there on her back, still as a rock, her eyes wide open, but unseeing. I thought for sure she was dead! The crack her head made when she fell, I fully expected a pool of blood at any minute. Luckily, as it turned out, she was only unconscious! 

Two women rushed to her side to comfort her. She didn’t come to for the longest time, and then just she lay there, which I’m sure was a good thing. She had to have had some serious injury with the force that she had hit her head. Another woman lent her scarf to put under her head. The driver poked his head out briefly and then we kept going. Not speaking German, I don’t know what was going on. I kept trying to ask if anyone had called for an ambulance, but the two ladies sittin by me couldn’t understand.

I’ll tell you what, I don’t know if this is typical, but it really makes me appreciate our emergency system here in the States. Nothing is perfect, and everyone is quick to criticize when something doesn’t go right, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing–it helps us improve and get even better. But if that had happened back home, that train would have stopped immediately, not moved another inch, and emergency would have been there within five minutes or less.

As it happened here, we kept going through several towns until we finally stopped and it was about 20 minutes before the paramedics showed up. After they had helped her to a seat and she had answered some questions, obviously to their satisfaction, they got her to her feet and walked her off the train. No stetcher or head brace like they would have done in the States.

And that’s as far as I know what happened because we then continued on our route.

To be fair, the spot we were in when she fell was a little farming village and Rob thinks that the driver probably called someone and was told to continue on to a certain point in order to get to a better location where the paramedics could more quickly and easily get to us. I sure hope the little lady is doing okay. That sound her head made being cracked on the side of the step is still haunting me.

So by this time, it’s very dark out and when we get to Mannheim, I’m havng trouble getting my bearings because they keep the lights on inside the train and it’s hard to see outside, and this huge, hulking guy had sat down down next to me and was blabbing loudly into his cell phone so I could neither see nor hear the stops and signs.

By the time I realized we were at my stop, it was too late and the doors locked so I had to get off at the next stop. Which was in the shopping district, but not anywhere I had been before so I got completely turned around in my bearings and ended up in some sex district, LOL. Signs saying “sex” and “eroctica” and posters obviously advertising nude dancing and escorts were everywhere I looked, LOL.

I finally made it out of there, but then had to trudge the long-way home. All that after realizing, I didn’t have our address or Rob’s phone number or his mom and dad’s address or phone numbers on me, LOL. I also wasn’t carrying the cell phone Rob’s parents lent me. I wouldn’t have been able to call anyone or tell a soul a thing about how to help me get home if I hadn’t found my way, LOL.

But I made it home safe and sound (where I promptly got all our contact info together so I have it in case of emergency) and we ate the leftover sauerbraten and dumplings Rob’s mom sent home with us on Sunday–ate it out of the same dish like a couple of fattening pigs at the slop, LOL.

Life is rough, huh?

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Grateful Mondays: Guten Tag from Germany!

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Well, I made it safe and sound, and no other passengers were injured! I did really well. The worst part was having to be confined for nine hours. I was about to go stir crazy. I did watch a few movies and read some of my ebooks. Also, I had a nice companion in the seat next to me. We didn’t talk too much, but exchanged some pleasantries here and there and she gave me some direction for once we landed on how to get to baggage claim (she was coninuing on to Barcelona).

Here are a couple shots from the plane: 

This is coming into Frankfurt:

The Internet situation is not great right now, which is why it’s taken me this long to post. Rob ordered Internet for the condo and thought they would have it hooked up in time for me, but they didn’t. Every week we get a new letter with a new date. When I got here, it was supposed to be done 12/16. Now they say it will be after Jan 1. Grrr.

So we found a no-contract, prepaid aircard provider called O2 (not sure if that’s the brand or the provider name) and I was all excited, but when we got it home and tried it out, the transfer rate was atrocious. It would take 10 minutes to open up a page, and forget trying to log into LogMeIn! So we took that back. The only other option is to get a T-Mobile Web-n-Walk aircard, but they want a two year commitment and we don’t know how long we’ll be doing this back and forth thing. 

I did try to find some wifii hotspots, but it’s not that easy. Most of them want you to pay now, which I don’t mind, but I’d rather just have my own Internet so I can work at my leisure and not have to lug around the computer whenever I feel like working. So I’m back to square one until our Internet gets hooked up which is tediously and uncomforatbly standing at the dresser in the bedroom in the one teeny tiny spot we get some free wifii, LOL.

It’s very beautiful here, although cold and overcast. The architecture is amazing. So much history. It’s awe-inspiring to touch a building and think of all the hundreds and hundreds of years (and lifetimes) it has seen. My first night here, after getting a bit of a nap in, Rob and I strolled around the neighborhood and he was pointing out some of the buildings that were left standing from the war, but had parts bombed. You can tell which parts are original and which are new.

The old-time iron work is incredible. You just don’t find that kind of care and craftsmanship these days anmore.

This is a really, really old pre-war building Rob spotted:

Recognize this? It’s the fertility symbol that Starbuck’s borrowed for its logo:

This is just one teeny part of a palace that is now an university (I’ll have to get the name and info from Rob when he gets home). It’s astounding how expansive it is and to think about all the goings on that occurred back in the olden days of kings and royalty:

This is a house where Mozart lived briefly:

This is the water tower where one of the Christmas markets is located:

This is a store downtown. Rob thinks it’s ugly, but I was fascinated with the intricacy of the facade:

Rob’s mom is spoiling us. She is an amazing cook and my first night here we had wienerschnitzel (my fav) with mashed potatos and steamed, sliced leeks in a white sauce that she had sent home with Rob the day before. Soooo good!

This bag of oatmeal cracks me up every morning:

I just love to say it: Dinkel Flocken. Say it with me: Dinkel Flocken. How can you have a bad day when you have words like that to put a smile on your face?

Rob’s been taking Mondays and Fridays off so he can take me around and show me the sights and stuff. We’ve been eating like a king and queen, LOL. Here’s one of my first meals at a German resaurant (that’s the name of it on the napkin to the right):

I don’t know how I ate all that–but I did! The Germans love their wieners, that’s for sure, LOL.

They have several outdoor Christmas markets this time of year which are open every day until 9 or 10pm. It’s really festive and fun to be able to stroll over to the one by our place and watch the kiddie rids and look at the wares the vendors are selling. Oh, and of course, sample the food, LOL.

My favs there are the bratwurst (which are about double the size of U.S. hotdogs in width and length) that they put in between a round roll, and these steak sandwiches which they also put between a round roll along with carmelized onions. The mustard here is sooo good and I like to put the mustard, ketchup and curry powder on my bratwurst. On the steak sandwich, it’s a big round slab of tender, juicy beef. Just melts in your mouth!

On one of our walks, we went through this tunnel next to the Neccar river and I thought the grafitti was interesting:

Some Initial Observations

1. Germans LOVE their eyewear. Omigosh, you have never seen such uber hip and trendy eyeglasses. The funkier and more outlandish the better. It’s fascinating!

2. Fast food chains haven’t entirely infiltrated the place. Thank gawd! I’d hate to see the landscape uglicized with that crap. They are here, but just not all over the place like they are in the States. So far, I’ve seen McDonald’s, Burger King, Pizza Hut, Subway and KFC. Oh, and Starbucks.

3. Everyone is in such great shape for the most part. There’s a very noticeable difference in the general physique of the population compared to the States where obesity is such an epidemic.

4. The German women are beautiful and stylish even in their late ages. I love this. Just because you get older doesn’t mean you have to look like a grandma and give up on taking care of yourself and having a sense of beauty and style.

5. They don’t really drink soft drinks too much over here. And where you can get them, it costs an arm and leg, seriously. I was having some jet lag the first few days and wanted a cola for the caffeine (as some of my readers know, I gave up my cola addiction earlier this year, LOL) so we ordered one from the restaurant we were at and 3 ounces damn near cost $5!

6. Tap water (and ice in your drinks!) is almost a foreign concept to them at restaurants here. When you order water in a restaurant here, you usually get sparkling water from a bottle. You have to ask specifically for non-carbonated water if that’s what you want. But the bottles are typically small so you have to have a special conversation to get what we in the US consider a normal glass of water and they think you’re weird to boot.

7. As I already knew, they drink beer with everything, even in the middle of the day. Even the oldsters. It’s such a crackup. We were at this little hole-in-wall restaurant off the beaten track called Binsebub’s and there was a couple, probably in their seventies, sitting next to us. The fellow was a little flirt and jokester and kept everyone laughing. One of the things that cracked us up was his little quip when he ordered another beer, “One beer is no beer.” Oh, and the beer is stupendous over here. (I’m an imported beer drinker–can’t stand domestic crap–so this is like beer heaven, LOL).

8. They walk and bike everywhere here, even in dress clothes and skirts and heels. Mannheim is really flat so you can bike for miles and miles without getting funky, if you know what I mean.

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9. And speaking of fashion, I purposely packed very lightly so that I could gauge the fashion scene once I got here and buy some clothes to fit in. The aesthetic here is decidedly dark. Rob’s mom confirmed my observation. She said colors lighten up a bit in the warmer months, but it was true that people here tend to like a lot of black and other dark colors. If you see color, it’s typically a splash in a scarf, tights, shoes on the younger people, and especially and most commonly in the eyewear. The women love their boots. Long patent leather or suede boots, in either flat or high heels, is the style. They wear them with jeans tucked in, with or without leg warmers. They also like to wear colored tights or thicker leggings and boots with skirts or long tunic tops and sweaters. 

10. You don’t see sweats and ball caps. They “dress” over here and are very stylish. You don’t see a lot of sloppy or overly casual dressers out in public. Sweats and ball caps are frowned upon as they consider it unkempt and not dressed for polite company.  

11. You don’t see many joggers like you do in the States. Probably because everyone already gets their exercise walking and biking everywhere.  The only jogger I saw was when we were in Heidelburg shopping the other day, which stood out to me because I hadn’t seen a one thus far. Rob said a lot of people here do that kind of stuff at the gym or really early in the morning or late at night. Might also be the time of year.

12. They also like to smoke over here. A lot. You’ll see people walking down the street smoking or standing around in groups smoking. You’ll even frequently see people smoking in restaurants (although there are many where they have to go outside to smoke, which is a good thing). Rob says lots of places let people smoke at work, too. He said everyone in his shop smokes except him and this other guy and it’s pretty unbearable at lunch because when everyone is done eating, they all light up. They even sell cigarettes in machines on the streets:

Don’t tell Rob, but I really love Heidelberg. We’ve been there three times already. It’s just gorgeous with the Rheine and Neccar rivers and the village nestled at the base of mountainside and the majestic Heidelberger Schloss (schloss = castle) sweeping the landscape in the background. We walked through several of the windy village streets where the homes are so darling and cozy.

I’ve a bunch of pix from there, but have to upload them still so I’ll save that for a future post. We also went to a Christmas market in a mountain forest (it’s an annual tradition that Rob’s family does). We’ll be going to Lahr for an overnight trip, and Rob’s mom is looking into booking us a week in Bavaria at the Alps. So more adventures to come!

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I'm Leaving On a Jet Plane…

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LOL! I’m getting ready to leave for Germany tomorrow! Woo-hoo! But I’m soooo not looking forward to this long-ass plane ride (9 hours!).

I’m not sure why I hate flying so much anymore. We travelled all over the place by plane when I was growing up. My mom’s second husband was even a pilot and owned a couple of those little planes (are they called cessna’s or something like that?) and we’d fly all over the country in those.

Mainly, I’m not grooving on flying alone. I’ve never done that before. I know I’ll be fine, and I’m putting mind over matter so it’s all good.

For those who aren’t up-to-date on my adventure, my guy retired this year, then unretired to try something new which he hated, and now he’s back temporarily with the company he retired from, LOL. They offered him this cush short-term position in their Mannheim Germany location (which is where he is from). So we bought a condo and will be living back and forth there for the next year or two.

Here’s a pic of the building our place is in. Our condo is the top one there right on the corner. Isn’t it just darling?! Rob bought a couch and bed, but we’ll be doing the rest of the decorating and shopping for furniture once I get there (fun!!!).

I’m so excited to be reuniting with my lovey guy. He left in October, but I wanted to get some things in order in my business before heading over there which is what I’ve been doing these past two months. So now it’s crunch time! Whee!

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How to Ask for Sick Days

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Recently, a Virtual Assistant asked colleagues how to handle sick days. It’s a good question, one that’s frequently asked by many new Virtual Assistants on various forums as they’re learning the ropes of this business called Virtual Assistance.

Oftentimes, the new Virtual Assistant isn’t yet owning their role as a business owner (what I refer to as still being in employee mindset). They go about things as if they were still in a subservient role to their clients and feel they must ask their clients for permission in these situations.

If you are wondering about this, too, here is my advice:

Your mindset about your business and your ownership of it is going to be vital as you grow in your business. It’s very important to remember that you aren’t your clients’ employee. You are a partner to them and an independent business owner who makes her own decisions and determinations about your business and operations.

As an independent business, you don’t have to “ask” anyone for permission or whether it’s okay to take a day off. You simply let folks know you are closed. This is important to understand because the permissions you give clients control over in your own business are doing to directly impact your ability to grow your business in ways that you prefer, to stay happy in that business (and not burn out or become resentful) and to begin to build a busness that not only creates profit in terms of income, but also freedom and flexibility.

That said, what helps navigate these situations is to establish your policies ahead of time and make clients aware of them upfront. If you haven’t yet, now is a great time to devise your office closure policy and then let all your clients know about that policy. People always handle things much better when they know what the guidelines are in advance and what to expect.

This is an example of what is referred to as “managing expectations.” When you set the expectations upfront, things will always go much better for you in practical application.

The problems come in when we let clients form expectations that don’t allow us room to breathe in our own businesses and to take those days off when we need to for whatever reason. Doing instant, on-demand work and being in constant, daily contact with clients is one way Virtual Assistants allow clients to form those kind of constrictive, unsustainable expectations. Instead of independent business owners, they begin to view the Virtual Assistant as their employee, their worker who needs to ask them permission to do things.

One way to combat that is to set work request procedures and turn-around policies that give you the freedom and breathing room to take time off and not be chained to your desk day in and day out.

Changing how you talk with clients in these situations will have a huge affect on how they view your relationship. If you approach the conversation from a position of asking for permission, you are telling the client that they control you and are subservient to them. They won’t view you as an equal, independent business partner.

Instead of a mindset seeking permission, look upon your notice to clients that you will be closed for the day (or whatever the situation may be) as a helpful customer courtesy. Letting them know as early as you can, and when they may expect you to be back open and how or what they can do in the meantime is going to make all the difference in maintaining a healthy respectful relationship of partners AND excellent client relations.

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Grateful Mondays: Living the Portable Life

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Just a few days left before I leave for Germany! It’s crunch time, but I’m having fun getting things ready. I’ve spent the last month preparing things in my business for the move. This week I get down to packing. I’m so grateful for the life and business I’ve built that allows me to pack up and move like this and still be able to operate from anywhere I please.

Friends are interrupting my process, though! LOL Every time I’m ready to get down to business, another one wants to get together before I leave. I think I’ve eaten more this weekend than on Thanksgiving. I had strawberry crepes at a French restaurant on Friday, goat (it’s not that bad) at a new African restaurant on Saturday, smoked salmon, goat cheese and bruschetta on Sunday at one of my fav spots on Sunday. It’s been a whirlwind of delicious food and a few beers.

I’m going to miss everyone, but I’m looking forward to the new adventures!

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