“How do you manage your time and juggle everything.”
A common question, particularly in our line of work. Most of the time, responses to this question have to do with tools and programs and systems. Which is absolutely helpful and definitely part of the equation. But for me, the heart of things always lie in the very foundation. What I mean by that is, I go back to the beginning, the root, the very reasons I am in business.
When I went into business, it was so that I had more control over my own life… you know, live my life on my own terms. It was so that I could exercise and hone the skills I had that I take immense pride in and enjoy using. It was to do work and work on things and with people I found interesting. It was a means to have an entirely different quality of life, one that allowed me to travel and live differently, to have more and different experiences that the ol’ 9-5 life of an employee simply doesn’t afford. And of course, the fact that my skills and work actually helps those I choose to work with is tremendously gratifying.
What becomes not so gratifying and liberating is when I am working only to manage things, to keep my head above the waters of work.
This is when I have to question what I’m doing? Why am I working this way? Why am I being put in a position of juggling? Is this the way I really want to be working.
This is why you frequently see my using the phrase “working with clients in ways that will bury you.”
Part of the cause of working with clients in ways that will bury you is in trying to be the same kind of “assistant” as they’d have in an employee.
The answer: Don’t try to be an assistant. And you really can never truly be an assistant if you are running your own business. It just isn’t going to work. Because to run a business that will make the kind of money you can actually live on, you have to work with other clients. So you are going to be pulled in different directions. Always.
The trick is to stop trying to be an assistant, and instead be someone with a special expertise. In our case, that’s administrative expertise and support. You don’t have to be anyone’s assistant in order to deliver that expertise. You also don’t have to be their personal assistant or concierge. And that’s the other part of the solution. When you stop trying to be their personal assistant and concierge, you eliminate work you don’t have to be doing. Which in turn creates less juggling, better focus and more time for your own life.
The other part of the solution is to stop trying to do everything. Obviously, your market must have a need for the solution you are in business to offer. And you need to pay attention to your market, study it and understand their needs and challenges so that you can identify where your solution will fit and frame it in ways so they will see how it will fit as well. That’s not to say that your market has the last word. You can’t live your life with everyone else leading you around the nose. As a business owner, you get to decide what you offer, what you don’t and how you offer things, which presumably, are going to be in ways that allow you to give superior service to all of those people you work with. Offering things and doing work that ultimately bogs you down and prevent you from delivering that primary objective defeats the purpose entirely.
It’s the reason I have never, ever managed any client’s email. Ever. It’s always why I have never answered any client’s phones. Because that work would bog me down to the point that I would not be fulfilling my primary reasons for being in business and that kind of work actually prevent me from giving superior support to clients on the work that I am in business to provide–administrative support and expertise.
You get to define what constitutes support in your business. If you don’t intend to be a receptionist, you get to decide that. And I would really advise you to not be a receptionist or manage emails because it will totally bog you down in your business and keep you enslaved beyond what you may have intended. Your value has nothing do with the things you don’t do. Your value lies in what the things you actually do and how it helps your clients move forward. You don’t need to ALSO be a receptionist or manage their emails in order to do that. But what you can remind clients is that the time you free up with the work you do do, they can more easily and effectively manage those things you don’t do (or hire someone else who does them). And you can also help them set up systems and automations to make those things easier for them to manage on their own.





